what, there could be pitfalls to losing weight? how annoying would that be?!!! think about when someone wins the lottery, they think "boy all that money will make me happy", but it also will bring lots of changes to their lives and change their interactions with family and friends.
losing a large amount of weight is in someways similar to winning the lottery. if you lose 100 lbs you are almost unrecognizable to folks and yourself. folks will interact differently with you and you will probably act different..
i don't discuss my weight with my husband. he knows i'm trying once again to lose weight. in the past when i lost 60 lbs i really don't know if he could tell( i kept that weight off for 7 yrs, thought the healthy habits were ingrained, not so... so this time i'm thinking i won't tell him when i've lost 10 lbs or so, i'll just keep quiet about my loss and see if at some point he says "oh i've noticed you've lost weight"
relationships are tricky dealing with weight. i feel some folks have chosen to not be friends with me because i'm obese. fat discrimination does exist. i might even be guilty of it myself. when i'm active, i want to chose folks that can exercise with me.
last nite hubster arrived home while i was watching an episode of extreme makeover, weight loss. not sure of the exact title, it's a series on TV where the trainer selects an obese person and spends one year working with them on their weight loss.
Last nite the 30 yr old woman wanted to lose 200 lbs in 365 days. she had been overweight for 15 yrs so never had normal weight teenage or twenties experiences. her husband seemed slightly overweight.
last nite and this morning i was commenting to dh some of the pitfalls the couple might face due to her losing 207 lbs, YEP she did it! she weighed 355 at start and 148 at the finale.
many of us might have reasons we are hiding behind our weight, losing the weight can open up lots of fears.
her husband had only been in a relationship with an obese wife, he might unconsciously try to sabotage her by saying Oh you've worked hard, one time eating this won't hurt
the wife might so enjoy her sexy new body that she goes out and flirts, finally having attention from admiring men. i think there was another tv show where some of the folks divorced when the newly thin person chose a new admirer...
(in her case, a rape at age 14 was the cause for her hiding behind weight. hopefully receiving attention from men won't be so scarey she runs back to the fat suit. i hope she received/s some psychological support during the yr's time. in her case, wanting to clear up a health problem to achieve pregnancy was her driving force so she probably won't regain the weight
on a personal note, when i lost 60 lbs i did feel more flirty so i saw first hand how that could lead to problems. i think that was about the time i saw that other series episode dealing with changes in personality so that made me aware of my behavior before a problem started. wish i could find that episode to reference, it showed how major weight loss changed partnerships, friendships, family dynamics...
maybe you have never analized why you might be overweight. you don't have to figure yourself out before you start to lose weight but during the process it could help to do some work in the mental area
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